WHEN YOU ARE SINGLE OR DIVORCED OR WIDOWED MOST OF THE TIME YOU WANT TO CHANGE YOUR STATUS TO BEING MARRIED, OR AT LEAST HAVING A PARTNER. THERE ARE PLENTY OF BOOKS, PROGRAMS AND ADVICE OUT THERE HOW TO SUCCEED IN FINDING YOUR MATE.
WHEN YOU MARRIED, ESPECIALLY LONG TERM (I AM MARRIED TO MY HUSBAND FOR 42 YEARS) IT IS CONSIDERED A SUCCESS, AN ACHIEVEMENT AND A DESIARABLE STATUS. MOST OF THE TIME PEOPLE IN THESE MARRIAGES SUFFER AND TAKE EACH OTHER FOR GRANTED BUT DO NOT KNOW HOW TO CHANGE THE RELATIONSHIP OR GET OUT FROM IT.
NEEDS AND PREFERENCES CHANGE AS YOU GO THRU STAGES OF YOUR LIFE. LIKEWISE CHANGES HAVE TO OCCUR IN YOUR MARRIAGE AGREEMENTS AND REQUIREMENTS. SO YOU MIGHT LIVE WITH THE SAME PERSON BUT THE FORM OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL LOOK DIFFERENT IN THE 30, 40, 50, 60…. OR 80.
AS A LONG –TERM RELATIONSHIP COACH I SUGGEST EVERY 5 YEARS:
1. TO RENEW VOWS.
2. CREATE A NEW MISSION STATEMENT FOR THE PARTNERSHIP.
3. HOW YOUR WILL SUPPORT EACH OTHER TO ACHIEVE NEW GOALS, DESIRES, DREAMS?
4. WHAT NEW ROLES YOU WILL PLAY OR WHAT OLD ROLES YOU WILL RELEASE?
5. HOW YOU WILL HAVE FUN TOGETHER? HOW YOU WILL HAVE FUN SEPARATELY?

DO NOT LET YOUR RELATIONSHIP STAGNATE, AND DON’T LET YOURSELF BE COMPLACENT BECAUSE YOU ARE HIDING BEHIND THE MARITAL STATUS.